There is nothing wrong with the part of you that feels sad, scared, or alone. There is nothing wrong with the part of you that doesn’t understand. There is nothing wrong with the part of you that desires things or people. There is nothing wrong with the part of you that wants to run from others, even when what you need most is to connect.
There is nothing wrong with the overachiever, the inner critic, the unworthy one. The overwhelmed, the humorless, or the numb. There is nothing wrong with the jealous one, the selfish one, the one who is ashamed. There is nothing wrong with the part of you that thinks there is something wrong.
All these orphaned parts, they don’t need to be fixed. They need to be allowed in. They need to be lovingly led back from exile, or gently coaxed down from the soapbox, and brought to their seats at the table. With acceptance and understanding, we earn their trust. With trust, they settle into balance, no longer distorted in their influence.
And new spaces for compassion open up! Yes, I know jealousy, from intimately knowing my own. I can see the suffering behind it, and I choose to respond with kindness to yours, as I have responded with kindness to mine. And so on for sadness, confusion, grief, shame, anger, fear, etc.
We are humans! We are messy and complicated! We have ugliness! Only when we take ownership of our formerly disowned parts do we gain the clarity to see that none of them are who we really are. In this newly integrated, intimate position, we can watch each part arise and pass, finding a space between, within, and around them which turns out to be all we ever needed for peace.